I made it out!
…And I am ready to go back already.
I was no stranger to bashing Detroit. I ranted about the roads, the leadership, the school system, the mayor, the taxes, the lack of city life and activities, the Lions, all of it. Everything the nation turns it’s nose up at my city about, I nodded in agreement, provided support, and repeatedly stressed how much I wanted to get out. I threw fits about how it made no sense for things to just keep crumbling down, and keep deteriorating and Kwame to keep being on the nightly news. Detroit embarrassed me.
Well, call me a hypocrite, because I miss Detroit.
Detroit is different. Special. Home.
Most importantly: Detroit’s Got Soul. Culture. Depth.
What do I mean by culture? Culture is the feeling that connects all the people in a certain area to that place whether they are aware of it or not. Culture is the sense of proud that comes over you at mere mention of your hometown. Culture for Detroiters is “Whut Up Doe,” knowing that a “set up” can be purchased at any local Cabaret and the obvious understanding that “The D” does not refer to Dallas. Culture is saying “pop” not soda, “freeway” not highway, and “Party Store” rather than corner store. Culture is seeing concerts at Chene Park, regardless of the weather, watching the fireworks from Belle Isle or down near the Ren Cen and attending the many summer festivals in Hart Plaza, where all the vendors sell raw Shea butter and black soap, regardless of what else they are peddling. Culture is Cutters for Steak Bits (prounouced “bites” not “bits”), Eastern Market for Swordfish Steaks, Paczkis on Fat Tuesday and Lafayette Coney Island coney dogs.
Presently, I reside in Atlanta, and thus far, it has no distinguishable culture. Sure, there are cultural areas; you got Little Five points waving its rainbow flags, taunting you with well stocked beer pubs and antique thrift stores. Midtown for the artsy, yet bourgie crowd and Buckhead for the snobby elite. There are lots of other cute little neighborhoods: Downtown, East Atlanta, Decatur… But this proclaimed “Capital of the South” has almost demolished it’s history and it’s culture to lure in more attractive business residents and, of course, their money. There are no historical battles here over tearing down, and rebuilding historic landmarks or architecture. You will see brand new high rise condos across from graffiti covered warehouses. Gentrification is in your face here, and whatever soul Atlanta had is quickly becoming a casualty of it.
People don’t really care about Atlanta. They care about what Atlanta now has: Celebrities, plenty of restaurants, lots of entertainment, and money. No one cares that the layout of the city makes no sense, (the beltway is way too large and there are 71 streets with the word “Peachtree” in their name). No one cares that ATL history is packaged neatly and delivered in the digestible bits its attempts at modernism allows. The King Center, big on presentation, yet small on facts and experience, is an example of what history seems to be worth to Atlanta.
In Atlanta, everything comes shiny and new; Regardless of how old it should be.
Being from Detroit, where it feels like everything is broken, this “newness” is novel at first. Everything you see, everywhere you go, is so nice, new, and clean… But then you realize how surface the people, the places, the things are. After six months in “The A,” I understand how valuable resilience is. How meaningful history is. How much depth these things add to my interaction within a place. Most importantly, I have learned that culture can not be purchased, built, or imported. Culture has to take residence, be cultivated and grow.
Atlanta has built it’s culture. Surface, shallow, communal places that successfully communicate a certain feel, but don’t actually deliver on it. In Detroit, we deliver on what you see.
Unfortunately, that includes the poverty. You will see abandoned sky scrapers & other magnificent structures. You will see closed neighborhood libraries. You will hear about the corruption of our leaders from mayor to police chief to supreme court justices. The NAACP symbolically buried Jim crow here in 1944 and subsequently “Nigger” in 2007. We are closing and consolidating schools and even have an Emergency Financial Manager for our school system, notably the worst in the nation. Yes, our roads really do feel like cobblestone and we have “neighborhoods” with only two to five homes still standing. The decline in the economy seemed to start in Detroit about 5 years before anyone else was aware it was even coming.
Yet, we still have nice things too. Lola’s for House Music (yeah, HOUSE music) and Small Plates for Poetry. The Spiral Collective and Flo’s off Cass for unique clothing, books & products from business owners of Color. The Charles H. Wright Museum of African American History boasts not only the largest museum of it’s kind, but invites guests for intimate concerts with Eric Roberson, Anthony David or The Foreign Exchange within it’s ocular theater. Stroll through Harmonie Park on a summer evening, cop a unique Detroit T-shirt at Spectacles or have diner at The Detroit Fish Market. We have the Cuban Vicente’s, All American Bookies and my personal favorite, Centaur Bar for a tipsy Friday night happy hour. Check out Slows in Corktown for awesome barbecue and a great draught beer. Head a little further south to Mexicantown’s Xiochimilco’s or Mexican Village for authentic and cheap mexican, heavy on both heartburn and tequila. Score a Mexican Coke or Faygo from Honey Bee Market while you’re there.
We have authentic Greek cuisine in Greektown, Mediterranean and Arabic food in Dearborn, and even Polish fare in Hamtramck, (Ham-Tram-Mick).
We have culture. It’s not all brand new and made up either, so some of it looks grimy on the outside and seems to be still covered in soot from when our manufacturing mattered to the rest of the nation, (i.e. Slows and Mexicantown). When the work we did to create the middle class was praised, rather than used to embarrass us before Congress. But when you step off these patchwork streets into that seemingly crumbling structure, inside you will meet some of the most genuine and friendly people in the nation…
Business owners who chose that building because the architecture is amazing… Sturdy. Like Detroit’s residents.
We make eye contact and nod our hello’s. We know space is personal, and say excuse me if we come too close to stepping on your shoes as we pass.
Despite our many stumbles, Detroiters are proud and we believe in tradition. We were once the 4th largest city in the nation. We eat at Coney’s all year. We cruise classic [mostly] American cars down Woodward every August. We watch and play hockey. We wear the Tigers Old English D as a badge of honor. We stand in the cold for the Thanksgiving Day Parade and then rush home to watch the Lions, (whom we love to hate). We cling to our ways. It’s not our ways that have destroyed our city, so we struggle with changing them to get it back.
Sure, the names and comments hurt us. Third World Metropolis. Last one out, light a match. I used to say them. Until I moved to a city with little spirit.
Sometimes I too think I am crazy to want to go back. But the reality is, when I am in Detroit, I am home. It’s in my blood to care about the place and to do what I can to see it survive.
So it is with humility that I am seeking, with open arms, to return home and re-embrace the city that raised me to walk confidently among strangers, to speak up if I want to be heard, and to always, always, give respect where it is due. I only hope I can give to Detroit in commitment, as much as it has given to me in experience.
Amber.





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Welcome back, doll!!
Sorry that ATL is not creating that sense of home Detroit had for you. This post is what I fear would happen if I ever left NYC, even though I dream about leaving the city behind for the quiet of a beachside villa in DR…
Don’t be sorry hun. I like Atlanta. It is just not HOME. There are many reasons I would not encourage someone to leave Detroit bound as well. But there are things and people here in the A that I am feeling. Just can’t stay here long term. lol
*sniff* so as I read this @ work and choke back tears, I love this. Ppl wonder why I refuse to exchange my Pistons cap for a Celtics cap. I tell them it’s because they lack soul. I don’t care if we go 0-82 next season. I’m not trading. I just worry about and miss my family like crazy though.
Detroit does have it’s share of issues, but after living in a couple other major cities, all cities do. Detroit’s population is so small it make it seem more prevalent, but really there are times I feel far less safe in ATL (and even discriminated against) as compared to Detroit.
Wow that was powerful Bam. I mean u almost had me bout to say forget it I’m moving back too… I will definitely have to read this again. I was so “there” as I read. (Bring the book out!!)
Thanks. The book is a whole ‘nother animal and effort, but I appreciate the support
Very well written. Sometimes we need to take a step back far enough to see what’s really there.
So. True.
It was nice to read your post about the D. Quite awesome. Keep them coming!
Thx for reading Halle,
I use to love her….
“What up doe,” as Detroiter’s we bow down to no one… when it comes to the love and loyalty for our city. As we have experienced severe riots and have lost nearly150,000 people since the 1950’s, those of us whom remain stand strong and also resilient. With a rising crime rate and poorly performing public schools we seem to hold our heads as members of our community retreat to different grounds. However, those of us that are trying to make it in the “D” see these quality-of-life issues as challenges that can be overcome. From no major grocery stores, poor policing, inadequate mass transit, a city government that lacks in response, or a place to buy fresh fruit on a main street (to name a few) Detroiter’s remain steadfast with their loyalty.
These issues would typically give reason to leave that city without hesitation. However, in Detroit these issues take on a special meaning to us, something that is large and small, something that is not only worth doing, but something that must be done.
This blog was very direct and on point when speaking of the “D”. I love the way you breathe breath into the words that you deliver to your audience. If any of your audience ever visited a “real Detroiter” he/she will be able to relate to this passage; if not I would recommend to really take notes and add the events referenced to their list(s) of things to do when they do visit. One will not be disappointed as I am sure the author will concur….. Peace.
welcome back. finally put up your first post. I was coming here like every other day waiting for one on some stalker type shit. Anyway had to tell you that this post was type dope. It make a brother know when he is home. many people ask me why i choose to live in places like newark and jersey city. and i think if i had to tell them I would have in the direction of this post. Places just don’t to it for me. People in my job always talking about buying houses in places like pennsylvania and all i can do is smile and say what ever happened to sensibility, what ever happened to hometown pride. perhaps we got to global for our own good. before I sit here and start trying to write a novel I will say this post touched on something very fleeting and nascent all at the same time.. anyway keep writing.. piece and blessings..
Very cool post!!! Although I havent lived in the city limits since I was a child, my fam resides there and I def party/hang in the city. The burbs has a vested interest in the city’s survival and I’ll always rep the D where ever I go. I love the city and will always support any endevors to bring it back to its former glory!
This post reminded me of the conversations I’ve had with people who say that they stay in the projects because they appreciate how much more “real” it is. I was always content to trade in some amount of my “realness” for a bit more opportunity…I couldn’t really understand people who did differently.
Admittedly, I’m from Atlanta, so a lot of the criticisms you level against the city here don’t strike me as bad points at all. Quite the contrary, if Atlanta were *not* trying to get money and improve our standing in the country/world, I would think we were doing something wrong. I would certainly move to impeach any elected official who told me that we didn’t need economic growth because we had “soul.”
Back in the early nineties when South Central L.A. was all the rage in music and movies, I’d look at the depictions of senseless street violence and think to myself “Why would anyone with a choice want to live like that?” And yet I met many relocated gang members who would wax poetically about how they missed the lifestyle and were it not for family/jail/baby, they would never have left.
I can only speak from my perspective, but none of that resonates with me. Being able to keep your dignity in hard times is an asset, but I see no virtue in suffering for suffering’s sake. But just because I can’t see the appeal in a certainly lifestyle doesn’t mean that there is none.
And I suspect the same goes for you. Atlanta’s culture doesn’t resonate with you as strongly as Detroit’s does, but that doesn’t mean that Atlanta has no culture. And it doesn’t mean that those of us who find our niche here are any less resilient or soulful.
I wish you the best in your relocation back to “The D.” (Motown for us noobz.)
Chip;
Let me open with this fact: Atlanta is not without many of the same “issues” Detroit has, the main difference is that Detroit’s are far more publicized. Saying that to say two things: First, everyone in Detroit is not suffering. Second, this post was not a knock on Atlanta, so much as it was a boost for Detroit. Because much like your comment suggests, people think ALL DETROIT IS, IS WHAT YOU SEE ON THE NEWS, which isn’t true. We are richer than that.
Conversely, it has been my experience that Atlanta is far more superficial than I imagined and while it may have once been the very culture rich capital of the south, it is now a city enveloped in image, artificiality and gentrification. Let me be clear: I like Atlanta. It is not a place I want to raise my [future] family.
Nothing is wrong with Atlanta getting money, and don’t doubt that Detroit is making the same efforts. However, it’s the values here in ATL (in this post, occasionally referenced as soul) that clash against mine, not their effort to grow economically [& Detroit is not??] as you so eloquently tried to reduce my statements to. Yes, I feel at home in Detroit, yes, I connect more to Metro Detroit – but it is not because I am addicted to or attracted to poverty or a struggle. It is because it is my home and I care, likely because, as you stated, I can connect with the culture there. Culture that seems absent here in ATL. “Seems.” Same word I used in my post to indicate that I do not detect any [doesn’t mean it is absent]- I welcome any local or native to show me otherwise. After all I am here for a spell and have been exploring since I arrived.
I have fun in Atlanta, and it definitely has its share of opportunity. However, declining to be abused by its poor layout, stark racism and pretentious venues does not mean that I am not interested in opportunity or success. It just means I am interested in opportunity and success that benefit more than just myself. I care about the place from which I sprang and the opportunity to see it grow and develop.
I do not expect everyone to have the same allegiance. We are after all, in a nation that promotes and thrives on individual success and competition. Often without regard to how it affects our fellow human beings.
Thanks for the well wishes, and I welcome any introduction to Atlanta culture you have to offer.
Peace.
Hot
While I appreciate your description of the culture in Detroit, I believe that the description of Atlanta is inaccurate. Saying the city has no spirit is a gross exaggeration. Atlanta has significant cultural impact in the south and around the country. Many aspects of the culture have been implemented elsewhere (our slang and music for example). The argument regarding our historic buildings and landmarks has little merit. Even the government recognizes historic sites that many still hold dear: http://www.nps.gov/nr/travel/atlanta/sitelist.htm
In your definition of culture you speak about pride for one’s hometown (which you couldn’t feel for Atlanta, obviously), which I feel immensely for Atlanta. When I lived there (now I live in Columbus, OH), I was able to experience many things that gave me pride for my city: 1996 Summer Olympics, the Braves, having a black mayor, MLK, the Zoo, East Point and College Park, FOX theatre, Q-time, Soul Vegetarian, and many festivals and unique aspects of Atlanta life (slang, etc.). Atlanta has many things that are new and several that haven’t changed for years. Many old churches, new cathedrals, unique parks, and even a ridiculous love for peaches and all things related to them.
Atlanta has even been called the new Motown (no offense to the actual Motown) of the south due to the large number of black music companies that sprung up there in the 1990s.
On behalf of my city, I’d like to apologize for not impressing upon you our culture in six months or less. However, I’d ask that you hold your opinion until you’ve spent more time there. It is unfair to compare your new city to your hometown. The new city can never compare to a lifetime of experience in your original city.
No offense to Detroit or your blog, but I think that both cities have a very unique and diverse history and culture.
Funny that many of the things you describe are almost identical to activities in Detroit. And much of your list I have experienced since I got here. Even the live music and Fox Theater. I travelled back and forth between Detroit and ATL for several months first and have been living in Atlanta since September. In 7 months I have ventured to experience things that give ATL the richness I’ve heard of and that deep people of color experience and I have barely felt it. I’ve lived in and visited many other places, none as cripple as Detroit is now, and I sensed or experienced that city’s culture almost immediately. The unity, the depth of the history. DC is a perfect example. I’m not saying ATL has had nothing to shake it’s historical hat at, I just feel that the intrinsic value of culture and said things here in ATL is significantly less than Detroit & other cities I’ve lived in or visited. People are too caught up in the “newness.” This experience, because of what it has lacked it what has made me recognize what I initially didn’t about Detroit.
As I have said to you on Twitter, I like Atlanta. I have fun here. But it has definitely birthed a feeling about my hometown that would have otherwise gone incubated.
What areas of Atlanta have you visited? I understand that the black experience in every city is unique, but I think Atlanta has that. But perhaps I am biased.
Also of note, you did this from your iPhone (let the iPhone detractors take note…lol)
I feel Atlanta is one big party town. That’s what they have predominantly here: let’s go hang and get a few drinks. I have had some good encounters, Soul Summit Weekend was nice, although not as organized as it shoulda been. Still nice. But things are very surface here. It feels like a city of transplants, which it is, and I don’t like that emptiness. Just my opinion in comparison to other cities I’ve experienced. Fun place, but I’m passing through. Will be back, but not staying.
I left Detroit 2 years ago and while I do miss it, I know I could never live there again. I hate what has happend to the city but I do believe that us native Detroiters have a strong sense of pride. As much as I complained about Detroit whenever someone here dogs out Detroit I get upset and defensive of the same place I once bashed…It’s just in our blood…lol. Great blog! I rock my Detroit Soul shirt often. I am indeed proud to be from Detroit.
Bre
Washington DC
this is awesome girl. I am so tired of arguing with folks. Detroit is always gonna be home to me. Everyone frowns when Detroit is brought up. My stepmother even had the nerve to take off all of her fake ass gold….talmbout somebody gon steal it. lmao.
good post!