Favorite Things.

by Amber on August 1, 2011

I have spent a lot of time in my life trying to be several things I am not.

What those things are is kind of irrelevant and could create a complication in one understanding my next statement, so I won’t detail them.  I am great at a number of things.  Just about any thing I apply myself to, I achieve “awesome” pretty easily.  So, while I have tried to be several different things, who I am, authentically, is someone who is great at many things.  Being great at something, though, does not mean it is your thing.  Could be just something you need to know, to get to your thing or be effective at your thing.

When it’s your thing, it resonates with you in a way that is impossible to express.

I realize now, I have wanted life to be a much easier stage.  I’d adopt practices of others who were skillful in things and perform them like my own on said stage.  Only to realize that they weren’t my thing.  No.  Realize is the wrong word there.  Accept is the right word.  Only to accept they were not my thing.

At the close of exploring interests in arbitrary things to adopt, I’d always find my way back here:

Back to helping people, strangers, friends — anyone develop themselves and find effective and efficient ways to deliver whatever their lives ought to bring to the world.

Back to composing and communicating information, especially about love, that may be complicated or difficult to accept, in digestible bits.

Back to scribbling blog posts and journal entries that are intimate and thought provoking. with out employing too many personal details.

As a writer I have learned, when it comes to words, the details don’t often matter, the message you communicate does.  So I make my work to deliver a successful message… The details are bonus.  Mere gossip to the actual lesson learned.

I guess the point here is, above anything else I insinuate in this blog post: Life is truly a stage.  And it is best serviced with your best act.  Pick up all the things you can along the way, play with them, but give your own thing the “awesome” it deserves.

A.

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Verbal Warning

by Amber on June 22, 2011

“Consider this a verbal warning.”

Ever had a leader who ruled with fear?  The kind of leader who had a roster of demands and deadlines and if you mess up anything, just once, their knee jerk, reactive leadership style had you on the receiving end of a sentence like the one above?

Leaders who use their authority to threaten rather than groom are doing their staff a disservice.  At the end of the day, most people are not abusing the system and are not making mistakes out of laziness.  For most people, their jobs are the biggest part of their life and they want nothing more than to grow and like it while they are there.  Most errors made by employees are an opportunity for development, not an opportunity to demean.

Ultimately, if leaders respect their employees and attempt to coach and develop them into better employees, they will get much more from their staff in terms of productivity.  People who feel valued and have an opportunity to learn and grow at their jobs tend to be greater contributors to the overall organizational success.  Who doesn’t want that?

Conversely, employees who are threatened or penalized for every error or met with panic when ever they make or discover a mistake, are likely to contribute as little as possible to get by.  Contributing employees are better than barely-sliding-by employees, any day; even if you have to pay them a little more. Because ultimately, you will get more than you are paying for.

A leader who rules with fear creates an uncomfortable work environment for me.  As a result, I have created a short list of questions I ask in interviews to get a feel for what kind of leader I could be working for.  Feel free to add or take away from this list:

1. How important is developing and mentoring your staff to you? Any leader will answer this positively, but it sets the stage for additional questioning.

2. What are some ways and/ or tools you use to coach and develop your staff? This one is easy.  They should have an answer.  Any hesitation at all is not a good sign.  All good leaders are about creating a good work culture.  The culture is made of of the people, not just the work!

3. What is the most effective form of communication with your staff? When a leader says email to me, I am concerned.  While email is great for many things, the most effective form of communication in any setting should be face to face.

4. An employee presents a deliverable you assigned to them, by your specified deadline, but it is not at all what you had in mind.  It is clear they worked hard on the task, it just doesn’t meet your expectations.  How do you address your concerns? While no one is ever going to say, “I am going to bite their head off,” you can generally get a sense for what kind of person you are speaking with when they answer. Just as they are able to get a sense for you when they ask you questions. I had one man I interviewed with answer this question with, “Well, that will not happen because I communicate my directives clearly.”  I will let you decide whether or not I was still interested in taking the job.

As a side note, I often wonder how leaders who lead with threats and strike fear (of a write up or suspension) into their employees, stay employed.  No one deserves or wants to work for someone like that, so who is hiring these kinds of leaders?

Of course, there are always exceptions to any rule. There are employees who don’t mind a dictator for a leader.  There are employees who are constantly trying to scheme and need a dictator for a leader to produce results.  But that is exploring another topic centered around “job fit,”  which is a topic for another time.

Amber C.

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Identifying the Important Things

by Amber on May 31, 2011

This spoke to me:

I have a very hard to impossible time forcing myself to do things that I don’t want to do.

When I feel that lack of motivation, there’s always a reason. I instinctually know whatever I’m working on is not actually worth it — that all this effort I’m about to put in is not going to pay off. Or maybe I’m just not good at what I’m trying to do. Either way, it feels like a waste of time.

Plus, I find it hard to have a wide array of things that I’m interested in at the same time. I usually pick one thing and I get really interested in solving that. Any other task that doesn’t fall under that banner has a hard time capturing my imagination and getting done. I just put that on the back burner until whatever I’m naturally interested in gets completed or my motivation runs out.

When you have a natural interest in something, your productivity goes through the roof. Even though whatever I’m naturally interested in might not, from an objective point of view, be the most important thing to work on at that time, it is the most important thing to work on because of the productivity gains I get out of just being super fired-up about it. I have to get that out of my system. And I wind up doing things really quickly.

When you’re not working on something you’re inspired by, your efficiency is so much lower. You find more moments in the day to let yourself be distracted by email or reading on the Web or something else. That’s usually the key smell I detect when I’m working on something I don’t really want to be working on: I check email much more frequently and I engage in chats about things that aren’t related to what I should be working on.

On the flip side, when I’m working on something I’m really fired up about, I couldn’t care less about new posts on Twitter or whatever. Instead, I get whatever I’m working on done right away.

- David Heinemeier Hansson (co-author of “Rework”) talks about motivation. Excerpted from Episode #26 of the 37signals Podcast (listen or read the transcript).

Find what you care about, and work on it.  Whatever is in the way, move it.

Because ultimately, when you continue to make room in your life for things that do not accomodate the things you need, (peace of mind, creative opportunity, happiness), you are teaching yourself and everyone around you that it is okay to work hard at things you absolutely do not want.

And that is not okay.

Life is too short.  Enjoy all of it, if you can.

Amber.

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